Choosing your bridesmaids should be fun! After all, you’re inviting your closest people to stand by your side on one of the most meaningful days of your life. But let’s be real: for many brides, it’s not always as simple as it sounds. Whether you’re juggling friend groups, managing family expectations, or trying to stick to a budget, it can get overwhelming quickly.
Take a deep breath, we’re here to help. Below are some key things to keep in mind that will help you build your dream wedding party, without the stress (or the drama).
1. Don’t Rush the Decision
You don’t need to decide the moment you get engaged. Yes, your bridesmaids will need time to plan and prepare, but that doesn’t mean you should rush into anything. If people are asking before you’re ready, a simple “I’m still figuring out our wedding budget and timeline” will buy you some time without offending anyone.
2. Keep Your Budget in Mind
Even if budget isn’t your biggest concern, it’s still something to think about. More bridesmaids means more dresses, more bouquets, more thank-you gifts… you get the idea. If you’re covering costs for hair, makeup, or travel, that adds up fast. Figure out what you’re comfortable spending before finalising your lineup.
3. Family vs. Friends
If you’re close with your siblings or cousins, they’re natural choices for your wedding party. But if family dynamics are tricky, or you simply feel closer to your friends, that’s completely okay too. There’s no rule that says you have to include someone just because you’re related. That said, if you’re including one sister, it might be a good idea to include the others (less chance of family tension down the line). The key? Choose based on connection, not obligation.
4. Consider the Longevity of the Relationship
While newer friendships can be incredibly meaningful, ask yourself: will this person still be in my life five or ten years from now? When you look back at your wedding photos, you’ll want to feel good about who’s standing beside you. Long-term loyalty and shared history can be more important than recent closeness.
5. Navigate the Politics Carefully
Sometimes things get tricky. Maybe someone asked you to be their bridesmaid years ago and you’re not close anymore. Or maybe there’s a family member you’re on the fence about. You’re not obligated to return the favour or keep the peace at the expense of your comfort… but do weigh the possible fallout. Sometimes including someone for the sake of family harmony can be worth it (and sometimes not).
6. Think Practically
Everyone’s life looks different. Some friends may be too far away or too busy to commit fully to the role. Others might be going through big life changes, like having a baby, starting a demanding job, or dealing with financial stress. Think about what you’re expecting from your bridesmaids – do you want them involved in planning and events, or just by your side on the day? Make sure the people you choose can realistically say yes to what you’re asking.
7. Feel Free to Break the Rules
You don’t need to follow a traditional path. Don’t want bridesmaids at all? Totally fine. Want two Maids of Honour? Go for it. Got a brother or close male friend you can’t imagine leaving out? Add him to the party. You can even skip bridesmaids entirely and opt for flower girls or personal attendants. Do what feels right for you.
Your wedding party should feel like a support system, not a source of stress. Choose people who lift you up, make you laugh, and genuinely want to be part of your Big Day. Whether that means two bridesmaids, ten, or none at all… it’s your wedding, and your rules.
Featured image credit: Bokeh Photography and Film
