One of the first things people ask when you get engaged, right after “Have you set a date?”, is often, “What are your colours?” And if you’ve even glanced at Pinterest, chances are you’ve already felt overwhelmed by the millions of colour palettes, trends, and themed boards out there.
Before diving into inspo overload, let’s take a step back. The most meaningful and memorable weddings are the ones that genuinely reflect the couple – your style, your story, your vibe. So today, we’re sharing the key questions to ask yourself to uncover a wedding style that feels personal and true to you. Put the Pinterest scroll on pause, and let’s get intentional.
❤️ Start with What You Love
Forget weddings for a second. What are you and your partner naturally drawn to in everyday life?
Is there a colour you both wear often or use in your home?
Have you bonded over a TV show, book, hobby, or shared passion?
Is there a destination you both love or a cultural influence that speaks to your story?
Resist the urge to choose something just because it looks good online. Trends come and go, but meaning sticks. Instead, think about what makes people say, “That is so you two.” Whether it’s bold, understated, playful, or nostalgic, lean into what reflects your shared identity.
✨ What Do You Want the Day to Feel Like?
Close your eyes and picture your wedding. What’s the vibe?
Cozy and romantic?
Laid-back and beachy?
Formal and elegant?
Intimate and rustic?
The feeling you want your day to evoke should shape many of your style choices. For example:
If you’re dreaming of a relaxed, outdoor celebration, avoid formal ballrooms and opt for natural settings.
Want romance? Think soft lighting, lots of candles, and delicate textures.
If it’s elegance you’re after, consider structured florals, black-tie attire, and refined décor.
Let the atmosphere guide your design.
🖋️ Give Your Style a Name
It might sound a little strange, but naming your style is one of the best ways to stay focused and communicate clearly with your suppliers.
Your style name could be specific, like:
“Boho glam meets Moroccan desert”
“Rustic romance with a splash of ‘20s jazz club”
Or it could be more general:
“Minimalist coastal”
“Urban botanical”
Just avoid vague terms like “unique” or “different.” Be as clear as possible. That way, your suppliers can better bring your vision to life.
🏛️ Consider Your Venue
If you’ve already booked a venue, take cues from its character. Does it have a modern edge, vintage charm, or natural simplicity? Your surroundings can and should influence your wedding style.
If you haven’t booked yet, choose a space that either aligns with your vision or is neutral enough to let you build upon it. For example:
A historic ballroom may lend itself to a timeless or glamorous style.
A vineyard or garden offers a romantic, organic feel.
A blank-canvas loft gives you total freedom to create something modern and bespoke.
Let the venue support, not clash with, your aesthetic.
🎨 Refine Your Colours
Once you’ve narrowed in on your overall style and theme, it’s time to choose your colours.
Consider the following to help guide you:
Season: Not a rulebook, but a source of inspiration. Autumn might lean into rust, blush, and gold. Spring might bring pastels and greenery.
Florals: Think about what flowers you love and what’s in season (and in budget). If baby’s breath is your favourite, whites and neutrals could anchor your palette.
Your outfits: Your attire doesn’t have to be traditional. Whatever you wear, make sure it complements the overall colour story.
Wedding party: What your party wears can elevate the style, like barefoot dresses for a beach wedding or suspenders and bowties for a vintage vibe.
🧩 Build a Balanced Palette
If you’re drawn to a single colour but want to expand your palette, here are four ways to build it out:
Add a neutral: Creams, greys, taupes, or metallics can balance bold colours.
Go complementary: Pick colours that sit opposite on the colour wheel (like blush and forest green).
Try analogous shades: Choose colours next to each other on the colour wheel (like lavender, soft pink, and mauve).
Monochromatic magic: Use various tones of one colour for a rich, layered look.
Your wedding style shouldn’t be just “on-trend”, it should feel honest. Don’t stress about making everything match perfectly. A wedding that reflects your real personalities, values, and story will always feel more beautiful than one that simply checks boxes on a mood board.
So instead of asking, “What’s popular this season?” ask: “What feels like us?”
Now take a deep breath, close the Pinterest tab (for now), and start planning a celebration that truly reflects you as a couple.
Featured image credit: Tomi Kriste Photography
