Whether you’re a hands-on planner or you’re just showing up when told, there are still a few crucial things every groom should keep in mind before the Big Day. No matter your style, or how involved you are in the wedding planning, these three tips will help you show up with confidence and class.
1. The Suit: Dress to Impress (and Stand Out)
Choosing what you and your groomsmen will wear is more than just picking a colour. The right suits can elevate your entire wedding aesthetic and make sure you stand out as the groom.
Tips for Choosing Groomsmen’s Suits
- Dark suits are generally a safe, flattering option, especially for guys who aren’t used to wearing formalwear.
- Want to make a visual impact? Put the groom in something lighter, like a grey or blue suit, while the groomsmen stick to darker tones.
How the Groom Can Stand Out
- Wear something unique – a different colour, a patterned tie, or a standout accessory.
- Try a three-piece tuxedo for yourself, while your groomsmen wear two-piece versions. The waistcoat will instantly elevate your look.
- Add contrast with a distinct waistcoat or a bolder boutonniere.
- Matching is optional. The goal is to complement, not copy each other.
2. The Wedding Party: Show Your Appreciation
Your groomsmen have likely been by your side through thick and thin, now it’s your turn to show your appreciation. A thoughtful gift goes a long way.
Gift Ideas for Groomsmen
- Practical gifts for the day: Overnight bags, classy grooming kits.
- Wearables: Personalised cufflinks, patterned socks, or stylish ties.
- Everyday essentials: Wallets, sunglasses, or a multitool.
- Just-for-fun items: A bottle of good whiskey, a craft beer set, a favourite book, or even gourmet hot sauce.
Gift-Giving Tips
- Make it personal: Monograms, engravings, or a handwritten note make even a simple gift feel special.
- Avoid generic gifts: Go for something they’ll use and appreciate.
- Consider individuality: If you can, choose unique gifts for each groomsman. It’s more effort, but it means a lot.
3. The Speech: Speak from the Heart
The groom’s speech is a big moment – don’t wing it. With some planning and practice, you can deliver a speech that’s both heartfelt and unforgettable.
How to Prepare
- Start writing your speech 6–8 weeks before the wedding.
- Practice aloud – use a mirror or record yourself. The more familiar it feels, the smoother it’ll go.
- Print two copies – keep one and give the other to your best man (just in case).
- On the day, pace yourself with the drinks. Save the whiskey until after you’ve spoken!
What to Include
- Thank the important people: Wedding party, family, guests, and anyone who helped with the Big Day.
- Celebrate your new spouse: Talk about what you love about them, how amazing they look, and share a meaningful memory or story.
- Keep your tone light, sincere, and personal. Humour and emotion are always welcome – just be yourself.
Final Thoughts
Being a groom isn’t just about showing up – it’s about showing up well.
Remember these three essentials:
- Look sharp with a standout suit.
- Show gratitude to your groomsmen with a thoughtful gift.
- Deliver a speech that’s genuine, warm, and memorable.
You’ve got this. Now go be the groom everyone remembers… for all the right reasons.
