The wedding ceremony is more than just a formality, it’s the heart of the day, where couples make it official and share their vows in front of loved ones. But with so many elements to consider, planning the ceremony can feel both exciting and a little overwhelming. In this episode, I’m joined by Irish wedding solemniser and all-around wedding expert Romy McAuley. We’re walking through how to build a ceremony timeline, and trust me, you’ll come away with a clearer vision and plenty of inspiring ideas.
When it comes to wedding ceremonies in Ireland, couples have more freedom than ever to shape their day in a way that feels truly personal. In this month’s podcast episode, Romy shared valuable insights on how couples can craft a ceremony that not only fulfills legal requirements but reflects who they are as individuals and as a couple.
The Legal Essentials: Simpler Than You Might Think
One of the biggest takeaways is just how minimal the legal requirements actually are for getting married in Ireland. Romy explains that there are only two statements that must be made during the ceremony: a declaration that there is no legal impediment to the marriage, and a declaration of intent to marry each other. These must be made in the presence and within earshot of two witnesses and the solemniser. The other legal component is signing the Marriage Registration Form (MRF) during the ceremony. Aside from these essentials, everything else is entirely optional — from vows and ring exchanges to readings and rituals.
From Legal to Personal: Making It Yours
With the legal boxes checked, couples have wide latitude to design a ceremony that feels like them. Romy emphasizes that it’s helpful to start by talking to your celebrant or solemniser about what’s allowed, especially since requirements can differ depending on the officiant or type of ceremony.
She recommends breaking the planning into two types of elements: the “doings” (rituals like candle lighting, handfasting, or sand ceremonies) and the “sayings” (readings, vows, and ring exchanges). The goal is to choose elements that genuinely reflect your personality and values — whether that’s something light and funny or deeply emotional and heartfelt.
Crafting the Flow: Think in Thirds
Romy suggests visualizing your ceremony in three parts, much like a story:
The Beginning – Welcomes guests, acknowledges loved ones, and sets the tone.
The Middle – Contains the legal declarations, any vows, ring exchanges, or chosen rituals.
The End – Includes the signing of the register, pronouncement, kiss, and the celebratory walk back down the aisle.
This framework helps couples stay grounded and avoid becoming overwhelmed by the many options available.
A Celebratory Exit
A memorable ceremony often ends with joy and celebration. Romy encourages couples to make the most of their exit — perhaps pausing halfway down the aisle for a kiss (a great photo op!) or adding a unique cultural tradition like jumping the broom or breaking the glass. These moments give closure to the ceremony and set the tone for the festivities to follow.
Final Advice: Enjoy the Process
Above all, Romy stresses the importance of enjoying the planning process. Sit down with a glass of wine and explore ideas together. A good celebrant will help guide you, offer suggestions, and ultimately create a ceremony script that reflects everything you love.
The takeaway? You don’t need to follow anyone else’s script. Build a ceremony that’s unmistakably, unapologetically yours.
