Been planning our wedding with the help of this website but this is the first time I have posted anything on here and really just need some opinions and assistance. It's a long story but i'll try to keep it as simple as I can.
Our wedding is in September and we are planning everything from overseas, haven't met any suppliers or seen our venue yet so I'm sure you can imagine the extra pressure this puts on let alone getting grief from the other half's family.
When we got engaged last August we first went to my boyfriends sister and asked if her daughter would like to be a flower girl. Got the whole "oh no not at all she's too young and will only be starting to walk". Ending up coming to a mutual agreement which was made to just have her in a frilly dress so it'll look nice in the pictures. Grand.
The today I got a text from my soon to be mother in law saying that the sister is sad that neither her nor the baby is part of the wedding... Bearing in mind that after they said she didn't want the baby to be part of the procession I went to my other cousin and ask if her two daughters could like to which they agreed to. Why is she coming directly to me why doesn't she ask her son?! Not grand.
Like, why now?! I really don't understand why they are "sad" they aren't involved. She is the sister of the groom and the best man is his brother, what more do they want?! I am total against agreeing to be forced into a corner to agree to something that I don't really want and if I politely decline I will look like a cow. The sister is going to have to carry the baby up the aisle and what if she throws a tantrum?! Plus the fact that I do not want any member of his family to see me before I walk down the aisle. It is my last few moments being with my family and I want it to be just us.
Another thing is, I'm afraid if I give them an inch they'll take a mile. It could have a snowball effect and they could keep asking for things to be done their way.
After to speaking to my mum (as you do no matter how old you are, mammy's always know best ;) ) she was trying to look on the other side and saying that maybe its good that they actually care and want to be a part of the wedding that it's better than them not giving a sugar.
I need help with wording this response text. I am being ridiculous? Thank you in advance!