28th May 2007 11:33Hey there, I can relate to what you're saying too, even though we were trying really hard for a BFP v. soon after a m/c. Despite that, we both still had very ambiguous feelings about it when it came so soon - delighted, relieved, terrified, most definitely not excited. Is it possible that you're not unhappy about this but rather just afraid to be happy and comparing it to the excitement of the last time around? That's how I was anyway. I still don't feel excited - I feel very content being pregnant and very glad indeed that it didn't take too long to happen. But I'm still afraid something could go wrong and the awfulness of the m/c has really subdued any excitement I would normally be feeling. All I can say is that the awful gnawing worry eased up for me big time once I got past 12 weeks and getting past the point where I miscarried last time was also a huge marker. It's true what they say that every pregnancy is different and all you can do is take one day at a time. DH and I were also very honest with each other about our feelings about this pregnancy, which was hard (hard to hear from DH that he didn't want to get too attached early on) but got us through the hardest part. It is difficult being pregnant while grieving for a lost little one. At the same time, being pregnant again is a great comfort and it forces you to be a little bit hopeful again. We're all here to listen when you need us and the new Lost Angels forum is a godsend. Mind yourself.