Different people will look at this in their own way but here's my take . www.gettingmarried.ie http://www.gettingmarried.ie/documents/ ... nquiry.pdf
have a look at the sample PDF of the prenuptial enquiry - if you're gut reaction to it is what a load of hassle/ why would they want all that/I'm not up/this is ridiculous/who do they thing they are asking for all this then you should probably consider going with the civil wedding .
If your gut says , bit of a dose but not the end of the world and worth it in the end then maybe church wedding is on the cards .
Yes there is paper work but it really isn't that onerous. People like to make it sound like its a huge deal , its really not . Leaving it to the last minute to do it and presuming that mothers keep certs neatly filed away for their children is what gets most people into trouble !
There's a form , its a good few pages , most of it is yes and no answers . In your case you'll have to stay up late a few nights to make some phonecalls and maybe someone will have to collect newly issued baptismal or confirmation certs and post them but if you're living in Australia I'm sure you had to jump through hoops a hundred times worse for your visa !
You don;t need to get a hundred letters of freedom , your current parish and a sworn affidavit is perfectly acceptable .
The key to doing it without hassle is to get your information from reliable sources , most diocese have websites now and gettingmarried.ie covers alot . Most of what you'll read in forums - including this post , is just someones version from their experience - if in doubt ring the diocese at home . Particularly if you PP in Ireland is somewhat difficult. Ultimately no matter how much huming and hawing an Irish priest does if you do a prenuptial enquiry in Aus with the priest there , have sworn affidavits and your certs he's not going to knock you back .
No one is ever required to do two pre marrraige courses , if anyone says that to you they are wrong . The priest has an obligation under cannon law to ensure you are 'prepared' and sign to that on the end of your prenup enquiry , this all goes to the diocise for double checking and rubber stamping , most priests use the pre marraige course , some diocise insist on particular pre marraige course - ask the diocise . If you do an approved one in AU then it may be accepted . If you email the irish diocise the details of one approved by your sydney diocise they'll hardly say no , if they say its okay then your irish PP can;t really say no . Another way around it is to just do it when you're at home if you are coming home , again if you're worried about the interval between doing the course and the wedding ask your Irish diocise .
Whoever you are asking don;t ask hypothetical questions , ask definites that return a yes or no , then there's no confusion and you get a straight answer and move on .
Hundreds of people organise weddings from abroad , its a bit more hassle but in someways you're saved driving around and most people will be helpful on the phone when you open with I'm ringing from overseas .
about the music- this story always grows legs , I'm sure that when it comes down to it nothing you would have wanted will be off the adgenda, no priest is going to allow romantic pop songs to be sung , that doesn't mean you're stuck with hard core school chirch hymns - Veritas sell CD's of wedding music - the company is owned and run by the Bisops conference , there are CD's with hard core churchy music and there are CD's with the regular classical pieces that everyones has . look at the website - the songs are all listed . If your priest whinges tell him you got the song from a CD the catholic bishops association sold you ! If you have something modern you want , slip in an instrumental version on the day
With either a civil ceremony or just the notification of intent for a church wedding its very simple to do by post and they're set up for that . Phone the office , get an email address of the registrar and take it from there .
My advice - Deal directly with the source ! Don't read anymore forums , what applied to someone else may not apply to you . If its what you want it'll seem do able as you're going along- if its really just not what you want its going to be increasingly difficult as you go through the process.