Before I got engaged, she was telling me that I should get engaged (like it was my decision) and she seemed like she was super excited. I eventually got engaged and her whole attitude changed towards it. Now I am not unreasonable, I know that my wedding isn't the be all and end all and I don't expect everyone to be thinking about it 24/7 or even really at all.
The day after I got engaged, she tried to persuade me not to ask the person that is my MOH, to be my MOH because in her words 'She won't be there for you, she will make it all about her!'. As I have no friends, I only have picked a couple of my family members to be in my bridal party and it was making me uncomfortable that she had a really bad attitude about it.
I didn't listen to her and I picked her anyways (MOH has been brilliant. Really been there for me) but anytime I mention the word wedding to my mother, she changes the subject to something about her. I have looked into getting some things for the wedding decor and she has had nothing but negative things to say about it. We ended up having an argument over the flowers I want and she told me she wasn't going to my wedding.
She isn't on speaking terms with my MOH and and when my MOH started planning my Hen's, my mother is now so disinterested she even said that she 'didn't have to go'. I am just so worn out about the whole thing. I can't even enjoy the wedding planning process. I can't even say the word wedding without there being sly digs and things just being put down all the time.
Sorry for the long post, but I just had to get it out