6th July 2018 12:29
Not 100% if i'm overreacting or not but H2B has really annoyed me in the last number of weeks. We are less then 11 months away from the day and there is lots to do. But he assures me there is loads of time to book stuff. Now don't get me wrong the big 5 are booked and deposits paid but it's coming to the time the finer details need to be sorted. What scares me the most is we don't have a priest and it does not seem to phase him at all, we're even passed the time of finding a celebrant for even a civil service. We are yet to even attempt sorting our papers as we have to attend appointments in two parishes (our home towns & current resident parish) and he is refusing to go to mass to meet the priests. When i try get his input he just brushes me off with "i'll do whatever makes you happy", Every bride's dream i know but i want him to at least give a sh*t. I don't want him turning around the week after saying he didn't like such and such or he would have preferred etc..
I started small and gave him the task of sorting the Dessert Table (i don't like cake and think this is better cause a large cake usually goes to waste), so after nagging him he finally booked it, i ask what flavours he requested for the desserts and the response i got was "he said he throw a batch together for pickup the Friday before" taking complete control away from what we would like to see or at least the theme would be present on the table. When i pointed this out he argued he didn't know (nor did he even ask BTW) and turned on his heel giving all picture and no sound for 2 days.
It seems he only wants to have anything to do with it when i argue with him. His retaliation "isn't that what the bridesmaid's are supposed to help with".. NEWSFLASH I'M MARRYING YOU NOT MY BRIDESMAIDS!!!
It shouldn't stress me so much but i feel like he doesn't care or even want to get married. Its starting to get to a point where i'm beginning to reconsider even getting married. I work full time and study part-time and then the wedding down on top of it. He thinks his role is over when something gets paid.
I love him with all my heart, i just wish he would have more of an interest in his day as well, i'm not marrying myself like.
Was anyone else in a similar position? I'm fit to be committed and my anxiety does not help matters cause i freak out. Some advice on to get him to at least pretend to be excited or help out a bit would be greatly appreciated.