DD is 7 months and i have no problem putting her down to sleep but she wakes all night. She goes down at 7 in her own room, wakes at 9/10 for a bottle, wakes at 1/2 and i have to get her back off to sleep and then from roughly 4 every morning it's a struggle to keep her asleep and then she'll wake for the day at around 5.20am.
she has to be swaddled and have a soother to sleep. i wouldn't mind the soother if she could put it back in herself (which DS could at that age) but obviously she can't coz she swaddled. she breaks out of the swaddle constantly so i have to reswaddle her and sometimes hold her arm down to get her back to sleep but i've tried loads of times to put her down unswaddled and she just cannot get off to sleep.
i can't think of any way to break the swaddle habit except controlled crying and it's one thing to do this at bedtime but at 1,2,3,4,5am, when she will also be waking DS up, i just don't know if i can face it. am at the end of my tether though, i go to bed at 8.30 just so i can function the next day and DH has started sleeping on the couch so he can get some sleep :(
has anyone ever used a sleep expert? And if so, how does it work? Do they just give you a plan and you follow it or do they start the sleep training? I don't really want to pay €200 for someone to tell me to do controlled crying. Which leads me to my next question, how much do they cost? Any recommendations???
I haven't used one but I gather the basis of all sleep training is controlled crying in some form. Otherwise the baby just needs you to settle them back to sleep which is what you're trying to fix.
Have you looked at the Wonder Weeks? It does explain a lot about wakefulness at night during certain periods.
Does your LO nap without the swaddle?
the problem is it's not wakefulness at certain periods, it's always been like this.
she has to be swaddled for naps too.
That's tough alright. If its any consolation DS only started sleeping well around 7 months himself. We stopped running into him the minute he'd wake and more often than not he'd go back asleep himself.
Hope you get it sorted, it's so hard when you're tired all the time.
Regarding the swaddle DS1 was swaddled until 8 mths, he couldn't sleep without it as his flailing arms would wake him. However come 8 mths I just didnt think it was safe anymore and I got a pekemoe. It took a little while but it worked to wean him off it. Have a look at
The two sleep experts in Dublin that I know of are Terese Boardman and Niamh O'Reilly. You can google them for more info. Consultations are around 150-200 I believe. They would typically give you a routine and advice for sleeping. Terese can also stay over and do the first night or two but obviously thats more expensive - not sure how much. From what I've seen she may be a bit more on the controlled crying end of the spectrum. I've done versions of controlled crying and yes its hard for the first night or two, but in the long run for me I've found its worked really well and it worth the pain.
Have you tried a book called The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantly (I think). I haven't read it myself but I know a lot of mothers who would not be into the cry it out route swear by it. Might be worth a try?
I know of another sleep expert in Dublin called Edel gargan, google her and you'll find her website, think its called baby sleep academy. She has lots of good info on her website about baby sleep problems, some if this may help you
Whats her daytime routine like? - naps and food?
- no idea of her methods but friend recommends her to everybody who'll listen
A friend used Lucy Wolfe and sings her praises -