I've sent her a wee message and seen her yesterday briefly for the first time since they found out. Words don't seem to cut it and I want to do something for her, but I don't want her to feel like I am pitying her, especially since my DD is the same age. She is carrying a lot of the burden as her DH really isn't coping with it. I can't imagine what they are going through.
I live a fair bit away and although I have offered to mind her older child anytime, it probably isn't practical. What else can I do to help her?