Basically my father in law keeps letting himself into our house while we are at work, uninvited, whenever he feels like it. when he started doing it first a few years ago i freaked out, my husband didnt understand the problem! then when he realized how i felt that it is a complete lack of respect and invasion of privacy - he said something to him, but obviously not stop. now he'll ring my husband beforehand to tell him he's going there 'cos he has an "hour to pass" or make up a silly excuse he's dropping something off. this could be 2 or 3 times a week. my husband doesn't understand how i feel because he let him know he was going there. i cant take it anymore, i cant relax as im going out the door in the morning wondering if someone will be in my house while im gone. also i'm thinking of the bigger picture - what if i'm pregnant in the coming future at home sick and hiding my pregnancy in the early days and he arrives in on top of me. also when im at home i dont want to be on the lookout waiting for him to come in the gate. ive never suffered from anxiety before but this has me in bits and i cant cope anymore. can anyone understand my feelings or do you think im being unreasonable? i know my husband doesnt want to hurt his feelings as he adores him but im sure if it was my mother or father he's feel different.