5th March 2012 08:13
[quote="sarah1979":1pfeea0y]Is it just me or is anyone else doubting decisions you've made...
I bought me dress. It's not the one cos that was WAY too expensive but it's still very nice. I haven't shown anyone it but when looking at pics of wedding dresses with friends I point out similar styles and say"what ya think of that one" and they say "ah it's ok" or "no don't like that one"
I'm the same with my band ( i havent heard of anyone else who has had them so im freaking out about that!) venue, menu, choice of colour for boys suits (grey or brown or navy) or whether we should go traditional w waist coats or just ties! I designed quirky wedding invitations and am really worried about the comments that might be made about them. All of this is really stressing me out! I felt pressurized to make decisions so that I would have things booked but now I'm terrified that everything is gonna be sugar..[/quote:1pfeea0y]
+1 on everything, that was me last week. Had to give myself a talking to!
1. Dress - I loved it enough to order it. Nobody else is wearing it, so it doesn't really matter if they like it or not. Regardless, I can't see anyone coming up to me on my wedding day saying "you look sh!te".

2. Band - I booked our band on the strength of their promo video. Nobody's heard of them. BUT - they're a gigging band so they can't be horrible! At least I'll be able to tell other people what they're like. And they were cheaper than every other band I rang.
3. Suit - I got my boy a pinstripe suit, he won't match any other person in the Bridal party, but
he's still going to look great. Likewise, I can't see anyone on the day going "god, that child looks desperate."
4. Invites - I cross stitched mine. Was worried that people would think it's very cheap or plain looking, but you know what - if they were the fanciest ones in the world people would comment that I'd money to burn, so you can't win - it's going to go in the bin anyway. Could not care less what people think.
5. Waistcoats V Ties - Not a clue yet, going to order the waistcoats on eBay anyway and if they look horrible I'll sell them on again. Ordered cravats but my OH has quite a short neck so I've a feeling he's going to look like he's stuffed

- sure if they're rotten, I'll get ties!
DON'T PANIC. And stop worrying, if you're trying to please other people you'll never, ever be happy because it just can't be done. Please yourself and your OH, and make sure ye are happy with your decisions - feck everyone else, there'll always be someone giving out about anyway, but as I do say - they've little else to be at.