Agree with crafty, the statement you made of your fear of him postponing a wedding if this isn't resolves to his liking would worry me. You need to discuss this, what does he think your going to move in, and you not being entirely happy doesn't matter! Well, he owns it with his brother, so it is never going to be both yours, has he thought about that issue! The whole idea of living together is that the home is both of yours, not necessarily owning the property but he has to expect you to want to put your own personal taste on the apartment, that's a natural process of making a house your home. I moved in with my husband before we got married to his house and I love it, it's a totally different house to when I moved in, saying that he hadn't a lot done, but over time, I got rid of all the furniture as it was second hand, got new curtains/Roman blinds, new floor finishes, new furniture in bedrooms, cost a lot of money and I did loads and I'm still no where near finished. Anything I took out kept it for my rental properties or sold off. I don't blame you if it was me and he owned it with his brother, I would rather it sold off and start afresh in a new apartment or house. If you plan on starting out in this apartment together in your newly married life then he needs to be reasonable and accept change. There is alot to be said for living together before you get married, at least you can iron out any issues and if there not resolvable well that a different story!!! Hope all works out ok for you!