22nd October 2016 00:28
So, my fiancé and I currently live apart and we're getting married next year, but all of a sudden the fact of where we'll be living has been causing a lot of problems. He already lives alone in his own apartment which he owns with his brother and I live with my parents. He's a guy, and in being a guy, he decorated the apartment in very manly way to say the least. I live with my parents and love interior design and it was my dream to marry him and live in a beautiful apartment that we both decorated, but mostly with my taste. Anyway, he keeps arguing that he hates moving and doesn't want to move and spend more money and that I should just move in with him. But what irritates me is that he just expects me to merge with his stuff and not bring anything of my own into our new home. The apartment already has a history, it's not a fresh start, and I really don't like the apartment either way, and it goes against every fiber in my heart to move in with him where he lives right now. Nothing would feel ours, everything would be his and I would just be using it and feel like shit. I've tried to find solutions but he always says that he hates moving and that he doesn't want to throw his things away. What do I do? I'm afraid he might postpone everything until I give in.