20th September 2011 21:12Hi aLL, Myself and my MIL get on brilliantly and she's always been really nice dropping off bits and pieces she picks up for our new house and we have great chats about everything. But recently she is driving me nuts about the wedding!! We havent given either set of parents a restriction in regards as who they want to invite but have asked them to keep it reasonable. She told me last week that she doesnt want any of my FIL's brothers or sisters there. She has never really had time for them but FIL and H2b spend a lot of time with them. Tried to explain that she wouldn't have to be anything more than civil to them and would only have to say hello to them of she wanted but she's having none of it. two night ago we met up and she was asking about one of our groomsmen, (one of h2b's best friends) i was telling her how happy he was with his new girlfriend but when i told her who this girl was she went nuts and said if she was at the wedding that my mil would spit acid on her (they had sum arguement about 10 years ago). Myself and OH have already decided that this Girl will be at our wedding regardless because we both get on great with her and our Gm and this girl are planning on getting married next year and our GM wouldn't enjoy the reception without her. she told that she is buying the jewellary for me to wear with my wedding dress and while i love the woman to pieces but her taste in jewellary and stuff is something else. she bought a big glittery diamete necklace with dangly purple stones with BIG BIG bling earrings. Its not something i would even contemplate on wearing on a night out let alone my wedding (i prefer small classic pieces and only the barest bit of bling, besides my e-ring). I tried to explain that i was planning on wearing stuff my dad gave my mom before he died a my way of having a part of him there and not she's in a huff. i mite just be getting wound up over nothing, sil keeps telling me that if her mom wasnt able to be melodramatic then she'd be bored and OH says if she keeps it up that she wont be invited. I'm caught between a rock and a hard place Sil and OH have a very strained realtionship with their mom (sil coming back from england for the 1st time in 10 yrs and staying with us cos she wont stay at home) and she has kinda adopted me as her surrogate (my mom lives in another county so dont get to see them much). She's been so unbelievabley good to me as has my FIL but i dont want ppl arguing on my wedding day and since we both have a stubborn streak any arguement cud cause more problem between OH and Mil. Trying to finialise the purchase of our house and planning a wedding with a very restricted budget but all i want is a stress free day with everyone we love there!!! ARRRAAAAGGGGHHHHH.head wrecked!!!!