10th October 2011 16:17[quote="fredsmom":3kxfzqqh]120 includes aunts, uncles and cousins. We have decided to order invites from vistaprinmt and agree with her who on the list can get these. that way I will have enough of my own invites to send to my friends. I am jhappy enough now with that outcome. Maybe she felt bad for upsetting me the weekend of my birthday!!![/quote:3kxfzqqh] Hi Fredsmom, Just reading this thread now and was getting so angry for you! I cannot believe she thinks it's acceptable to invite 120 people - out of a total of how many?? My MIL did something similar but on a much smaller scale. It didn't p*ss me off any less at the time though. We had a small-ish wedding abroad and wanted just close friends and family (about 60 max we thought would come). Anyway MIL produced a guest list of 30 which included a couple of aunts and uncles but was primarly made up of her and FILs friends from college!! People I had never met in my life and OH barely knew them - it was the chance for a big college reunion for them! OH confronted her and she started on with the waterworks and of course he's such a softie he let her off with it. She had a total meltdown because of course she'd invited all these people without mentioning one word to us and she would have been mortified having to go back and say that they were un-invited! She swore blind most of them wouldn't come what with us getting married abroad and on the day of course every last one of them was there. Now that said they were great craic, mingled so well with all our "real" guests and I barely even noticed they were there to be honest, but I still look at our wedding pictures and have to ask OH who such and such a person is! And as I said that was on a small scale - 120 is the craziest thing I have ever heard and your mother has some cheek. Do I take it from your reply above that it's only the invitations that have been sorted now and you're letting her off inviting as many people as she wants??