And what if you determine *you're not* done with him? What do you expect him to do? Call off his wedding? Leave his wife-to-be standing at the altar so he can ride off on a white horse into the sunset with you?
And, what do YOU plan to do if you realize "you're not done?" Harass and stalk the guy and his new wife? Spend the rest of your life as a spinster pining away for "the one that got away?"
I think meeting up with him is a bad idea and I think the reason you cited for doing so is fooling no one, including you.
Some relationships work out, others don't. It takes two and obviously your ex has moved on. Not to be harsh, but I think you need to pull up your big girl panties and move on, too.