30th January 2017 09:49
I'd have to agree with whereland. If the girls accused you of giving back-handed compliments and being selfish then I guess it's up to you to do a bit of soul-searching.
I can't imagine something like you described happening under normal circumstances - as in, if everyone was truly happy with their friendships and knew that all of their friends were supportive and loyal etc, then I don't think a remark could be SO misconstrued that it would result in the fallout you've described, so I think maybe if you value these girls opinions and friendships, then you might have to consider that they said to you has truth in it.
I hope ye can sort it out - ye are obviously all friends for good reason, and good friends are invaluable, the fact that they cared enough to organise a great hen for you shows that they care, so it may just be that there are one or two things you do that hurt peoples' feelings that you're not aware of.
Good luck!