Girls please tell me some of you have experienced this... I don't know if it's me or DH but we have only DTD once since I found out I was pg. I'm over 11 weeks now! I have to chat to DH about it but just wondering if it's normal? To be honest I would like to do it, but in the evenings I'm in bed by 9.30 I'm so exhausted and DH comes to bed later so I'm just finding that night after night is passing without any how's your father, and I'm feeling abit strange about it.
I was the same and there was no improvement in the 2nd tri either.
Mrs lovealot, I am with you on this one, its been that way the whole way through, I think I could count on one hand how many times we have DTD since I found out, I do try and do other things to help him out as I know it cant be easy for him. But I have suffered very bad from SPD since 20 week mark and it just so sore afterwards...my poor DH, he has been so patient
fell kinda bad for DH but he has kindly informed me that he "sorts himself out" and won't be pestering me - part of me is sad about this but part of me is also relieved, for me it's hard to get in the mood when I can feel babs wriggling away inside me
we were actually at it more than usual for the first while until I had a bleed at 8 weeks and got totally freaked out and went off it. things picked up again until I got to about 16 weeks and now I have totally lost interest
your not alone! please dont worry. We havent done is much either, its hard when you have a belly in the way or your feeling sick etc. When your feeling good, do it and enjoy it, but dont worry if your not!
I've found Sunday mornings to be the best time, I wake up refreshed and there's no rush, we can take our time and get around the belly!
Oh i was so happy with the title thinking others are going through the same thing but you're not
i find mornings and weekends are a good time to catch up!!
or even having a cuddle is nice.
im like you in bed by 9.30 every night and i am snoring by the time DH comes up
Mainly because I have has ms so bad morning, noon and night
Im also going to bed early too as im wrecked by 9-10 so am usually in bed before DH. Hoping that ill be over the ms soon and might start to feel a bit human again and get in the mood
We are exactly the same, have only DTD twice since we got our BFP
We're ok at the moment still going for it about twice a week which is great but I do think that once the belly starts to grow my DH will start getting a bit more weird about it aswell and possibly go off it altogether at some stage! I think it is definitely the fear of that they will hit the baby or the baby can "see" their willy or something
Can I recommend a book for our other halfs. It is called 'a blokes guide to pregnancy', written by Jon Smith. I bought it in Mothercare for my DH and I was actually surprised that he was enthuastic about me getting it for him.
It is from their perspective but explains all aspects, from money, to their roles, why we can be so ratty and moody at times etc. There is also a chapter on dtd and what to expect. I read some sections and laughed at certain bits, but was surprised too how our other halfs can worry too, and sometimes about the same things that we do, including lovemaking.
It might be worth a read