27th September 2007 07:04Hi everyone. I've been lurking on here for ages, but decided to post today because I just have to vent before I have a breakdown! I'm Irish and my H2B is not. We met at home and now live in Oz, in order to be near his family. In the beginning in Ireland everything was great. His parents had no issue with the fact that we are of different races and his mother was constantly telling me that I was the bees knees and was looking forward to having me as a DIL. Fast forward 2 and half years and she turned into the anti-Christ. It began with abusive phone calls and threatening letters. She actually threatened my life and the language she used would make a sailor blush. Then she began to verbally abuse H2b as well, saying things like she wished he would get into a car crash!!!!!! This kind of thing continued for about 18 months and it's been quiet now for about a year. She still has a go at him every now and then, the rest of the time she just pretends that I don't exist. I haven't had any contact with them since she wrote those disgusting letters and she got so frustrated she started to ring my dad who lives alone and was going through radiotherapy for cancer at the time. I nearly went to the police on that occasion, but my dad said not to. She has said that not only will she not come to the wedding, H2B will be dead to her if he goes through with it. He is devasted and I am a nervous wreck that he will leave me standing at the altar There was no precipitating incident, she literally just decided overnight that I was too much of a wh*re (!!) and too Irish to marry her son. I am so confused. I did not do anything to deserve this and neither did H2B. When he asks her what changed she just begins screaming, will not let him finish a sentence, says she doesn't want a white person in her family and ends up somehow being the victim in the whole thing I could write forever about everything she has said and done but I don't think anyone would believe me! It's like a bad movie. Everyone is aware of the line that you just don't cross, but she seems to cross it with glee. I am not affected be her actions anymore, and couldn't care less if she dropped off the face of the planet, but I am really worried about how this is affecting H2B Anyway, I have never posted on a forum like this before, but I don't have anyone to talk to about this as I live so far away from my family. I just had to vent! If you've made it this far, thanks for reading such a long post! Does anyone else have such extreme problems with their FMIL?