you can't get officially married in a church if you have been divorced but loads of churches will do a blessing for you. Have the civil ceremony in registry office then have your blessing done by the priest.....
don't know if that helps but goodluck anyway
i'm sorry to hear that - it can all be really stressful all this planning and as much as i love my family they can be the biggest cause!! i'm in dublin so have no idea about the churches there but i have heard of a few weddings/blessings in dublin done like this.....