2nd December 2011 14:34So the background is this, I was raised Catholic but am non-practicing. I'd like to light the unity candles at our ceremony like a Catholic ceremony and I would like there to be somewhat of a spiritual feel to it. My H2B was not brought up with any religion, and is quite against the Catholic church and any mention of God. However, he does have a part Jewish background and would like to do some Jewish traditions at our ceremony. So we thought about having a civil ceremony in our venue but were worried about the number of people we can fit in the room and if it would be squashed. I also felt like it is a lot of work to organise the civil ceremony (in terms of getting the venue approved etc) as we are organising the wedding from abroad. And I'm not sure we could do any of these 'religious' aspects like the candles and smashing the glass and we would have to stick with the civil ceremony format. We went to visit the Unitarian church on Stephen's green and I really liked it. It would hold our numbers and seems to be very flexible on what we want to incorporate into the wedding in terms of lighting candles, doing some Jewish traditions, saying our own vows and picking our readings. However, I don't know if some religious elements have to be mentioned, I think that if there is any talk of God the H2B will not be at all happy. So there's my dilemma. To me the ceremony is really important, I want it to be personal to us (and to fit everyone comfortably!). Has anyone any advice, or knows if the Unitarian church would be ok with not mentioning God? Part of me feels like that's a ridiculous question given that it's a Christian church (and maybe insulting to them?). I don't know what to do and would love to know if anyone else had a hard time choosing the right ceremony for them.