25th June 2018 17:43
Hi,
I'm new here and don't really know how this all works but need advice if possible please. Okay so my wedding is less than 5 months away and I asked a close friend (well at the time close friend), lets call her Aoife, to be bridesmaid (Aug 17), everything was grand she was excited, i was excited and we looked forward to planning my wedding together. (she is married about a year now and i was her bridesmaid and helped her plan her wedding so she obviously offered to help with mine). Fast forward to about Jan this year and my MOH set up a group chat for my hen party with all invitees in and let them know it was going to be local to me and was super low cost as my Godmother opened up her home for us all. Aoife straight out said she wasn't coming, now bear in mind she does live in England and I live in Ireland. I thought it odd that she said No straight away instead of maybe asking for it to be rescheduled if it conflicted with anything as my MOH was super flexible and asked if everyone was free the weekend of it. Anyway that didnt bother me that much but shortly after that debacle she has completely ghosted me!! I can't get into contact with her at all, her number isnt working or anything, i mean i know she has another social media platform she uses under a different name (its a blog or something) but I don't know what to do. Do i just assume she isn't coming to my wedding?? She told me she'd bought her dress before she disappeared but who knows if she's booked the hotel to stay at or anything. I'm annoyed, upset and completely confused :( I don't know what to do at all, i don't know whether to put her on the draft table plan and include her in the final hair and make up numbers?! I haven't sent my invites out yet but I don't have her address as she moved after her wedding last year, she doesn't have money problems at all (trust me both her, her husband and their families are very wealthy). Has anyones bridesmaid ever ghosted on them?
Thanks in advance I'm one stressed out Bride 
