Hey Tash, I can't say that I fully agree with maybride that you're being unreasonable.
Is there more to this than meets the eye? As in:
1) does your fiancé like your friends?
2) Is you level of interest in wedding planning causing your fiancé to feel irritated / left out / unconsidered?
I totally understand that maybe when first confronted with going on honeymoon and spending time with your spouse's friends, the first reaction might be to feel a bit unimportant, but surely after going away and thinking about it, anyone would realise that it's only 1 day/night out of what.. 7?
Admittedly, if it's just female friends, or if it was just his male friends, the chances are that neither of you would jump for joy at the thought of it initially but then once the time comes and everyone's had a few drinks, everyone is in great form and delighted.
Having said that, you really have to keep in mind that you had your holiday planned for July all along, so I guess for him to see you suddenly want to turn your honeymoon plans on their head in order to accommodate your friends, it could be a bit disheartening for him. I can understand if he feels like you're trying to suit yourself and your friends more than him. Would your friends travel in July instead?
As regards the planning of the wedding - I am a bit puzzled to be honest. Would you say that he'd always have wanted to have input in planning one, hypothetically? I know for sure that my husband would never have cared or wanted to be involved, it was a chore to get him to decide on anything so I did just carry on and get things done without much input from him, every now and then I just told him what I'd done and he'd smile and say "yeah, grand!", and I think that's a pretty normal wedding planning experience for a lot of couples, so what I'm asking is, would he be the type who'd want to be involved, or is his involvement coming all of a sudden, in which case, are you going a bit OTT with things and driving him to intervene? Or is there a power struggle going on between ye?
I suppose it can be stressful organising a wedding, depending on what kind of personality you have, but to be honest, it shouldn't really be fraught with problems at this stage in your timeline - I got married during the summer and a year prior the only stress was from deciding on bands, food, venue etc, and then in the weeks before the wedding, there was hassle over RSVPs and table plans. Yes there was also stress from family members getting involved when they shouldn't have, but other than that, I don't honestly see why it should cause couples to fall out. I know it's a cliche but communication and compromise is what it's all about - both the wedding and a relationship in general.