CiaraGraham, you are so right that things do go wrong at almost all weddings: I felt so flipping poxed, I felt like everything went wrong for me in the lead up, but on the day, thankfully, nothing major happened.. but I still really felt hard done by and pissed off until I read back over some of the chat on the "niggly annoyances" thread and I realised that really, my issues weren't bad at all!! At least once the day got going, everything went great. I can't imagine what some people feel like when they had to put up with things like bands not turning up, or bad photos etc.
Mine irritations started from my engagement; my ring took 3 months to come back to the jewellers in the right size, so you can imagine how frustrating THAT was - everyone asking to see the ring, and by the time I got it, nobody cared anymore, including me!!
Then our venue closed down, involuntarily, so we moved, and then THAT place closed down!!!
So we moved again and thankfully it turned out to be for the best, although we lost money, the hotel we ended up at was fab.
Changing venues meant first of all, lots pf phonecalls and emails to explain things TWICE!! And increased prices from some suppliers as mileage was different.
It also meant a different registrar to the one we'd had all our appointments and contact with, who was absolutely lovely and we'd built up a relationship but they won't allow the registrars to cross over into other regions.
Had non-stop family drama on OHs side, like non-goddam-stop. If it wasn't one person, it was another. Have not seen any of them since, thank God.. can't face them.
Really really wanted an outdoor ceremony, but weather didn't permit.
The day before, when we were up to 90 with visitors, flowers, last-minute gifts etc, the registrar rang to say he couldn't do the wedding, but had arranged someone else to do it - yet we couldn't use the original one when WE wanted to, because it was a "different area" grr.
Registrar charged us for mileage and time that wasn't valid. Very annoying but you have no choice in these things.
Chauffeur was sick on the day and I had to get a Plan B who wasn't familiar with the car or the road, so it was a tense journey!
Almost got a parking ticket on the day when I was getting hair and makeup done, instead just got a bollocking from parking attendant. I was fit to cry by that stage!!
Our first dance I felt disappointed by - it felt like literally one quarter of our guests bothered to be there for it, there was only a few people standing around the dance floor and I felt embarrassed and annoyed. But that wasn't a big deal, in fairness.
But yes, once I got there and got over the bad start / nerves, it was brilliant, everyone that I had booked did an amazing job, which I am so grateful for and I really do feel for you ladies who were disappointed by suppliers on the day - it's a lot worse than being annoyed by things in the lead up or aftermath.
One thing that I would say to future brides - it's so obvious but in the rush on the day, you might not think of it - is to try to make sure that someone is responsible for bringing things like your deodorant, toothpaste etc up to the bridal suite - our stuff was being brought by the Best man and Bridesmaid on the day but in the excitement, nobody thought to leave them into our room, and my BM's hubby had dumped all my stuff in their room which, unfortunately was at the opposite end of the hotel to mine, and I had no lipstick to touch up before photos because we were dashing off and I didn't want to delay us, I had none of my toiletries / perfume etc in my room when I eventually did get up there to freshen up after the photos and had to send hubby off in search of BM (nobody had their phones on them either!!) and then get the stuff from her room, which just meant I was sitting alone in the bathroom of my room for 20 minutes gagging to get down to the action.
That night then, we had no toothbrushes cos Best Man had forgotten hubby's bag, where I'd packed stuff in advance, so I also had no cleanser or moisturiser - not exactly the way you want to be waking up the morning after your wedding!!!