AHHHH! If one more person says 'ull be next' or 'its bout time u got moving'.
we just had our second wedding anniversary and it has opened flood gates.
This issue causes major probs for us as a couple- im so overweight, was v depresses for a while. and my dh is mad for kids. im hoping to lose weight before we start. but im yearning.
im sick of laughing off comments and saying things like. oh i love my sleep too much,oh we have loads of time. blah blah.
so i think next timeill say "actually i think ure right, it is time for us. but u know what im too fat and my husband might just leaveme if i dont get it sorted and we havea baby. oh yeah and everytime i see a baby. i feel like crying"
let them sweat for a while.
ok rant over sorrym just feel very upset and im hormonal AF due tmor.
Oh I'd love to see someone face if you said that!!!! Would be excellent. I found out the hard way that people say these type of things to u thinking it's ok. Truth is, nobody ever knows what's going on with a couple and they can hit a nerve. Just try ignore them as best u can. Or, tell them where to go!
Everyone needs a rant!
say it!! that'll shut them up. people have no common sense, some people are trying for years so hard to have a wee bundle and can;'t and it must be heartbreaking every time some idiot says it...
one girl said to me when i told all at work i was preggers.. was it planned...
i said "thats the rudest thing anyone has ever said to me. i got married in dec ,preggers in feb, will be on Ml for 11 months you figure out if it was planned" aggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Some people are just so clueless aren't they. Nobody knows what's going on for a couple behind closed doors. Rant away hon- I had one on here yesterday and best of luck
Even if "was it planned" came into my head I would never, ever say it to someone. I can't believe how rude that is. If it wasn't planned the last thing in the world you'd want someone to say to you is "was it planned". FFS. That person deserved a slap. Was it a man? Women tend to have more tact. But plenty of stupid women out there too mind you.
No consolation to you but most people genuinely don't mean any offense. I know a girl who had a lot of fertility problems herself and it was only when we pointed out that she made comments such as those you listed that she noticed!! Ridiculous I know, but it was like a stream of small talk, generic little comments that she never even thought about. She stopped soon enough when we pointed it out though.
I would be inclined to say ignore them and don't give any response whatsoever. I always found that silence worked best with people silly enough to comment. Try not to let them get to you
god id love that........... im always getting this at work would love to say nope actually my husband has no sperm and we are infertile but as your here i presume you partner is a ok would he like to make a donation !