would you be a stay-at-home mom?

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irish bride Posts: 558
Hi girls, My hubby wants me to stay at home once the baby is born, and maybe only go back to work after a year or so. Financially it would be hard, but do-able. We do not have family members around to help mind the baby if I was to go back to work, and he feels strongly against giving the baby to a creche/child minder as these people would be strangers to us. In a lot of ways I do agree with him. He also earns more money than I would so it makes most sense for me to stay at home. Has anyone else decided what they are doing once their wee one is born?
Anonymous Posts: 24542
From next year you'll get a years maternity leave anyway...just something to think about :) I would do it though, yes, if it was financially viable.
SanFranBride Posts: 212
I would love to be able to be home for the first few years but it is not financially in San Francisco it is not possible if we want to buy a house.
lamb nose Posts: 679
Hi Irish bride, I am going to be a stay at home mother as well. DH earns around more in a week than I do in a month so it makes sence. Whilst I enjoy my job (civil servant) I do feel it is time to move on. Like you, we do not have any family members living where we live and I think I would worry too much if we put the child into a creche/nursery so I am looking forward to the change after working for so long!! Have good intentions to stay busy and bake cakes etc. It is going to be a challenge anyway!
Maud Posts: 857
Hi Irish Bride, I would love to try being a stay at home mum. I don't think it suits everyone though- some women get a bit lonely and miss going to work. I'd really love to stay at home for the first year- if we could afford it- and then see how I feel. Ideally I think it would be best to stay at home for as long as possible. I imagine it's better for the child although creches aren't too bad I don't think. At least young children get make friends and get used to socialising early on! When I was little(before playschool) my only friend was my dog!
mad woman Posts: 22106
In another life I would like to be stay at home mammy, but in this life I honestly think I would crack up at home all day, dont take this the wrong way, but from reading your post it seems like its what your hubby wants, what do you want?
bree Posts: 1880
hey - what ya mean next year there will be 1yr maternity benifit?? as in babies born in 07?..hum..sounds good. I will defo stay at home for a while..lucky for me am in situation where i could sometimes bring my baby to work with me ( as there is a nanny there) and he/she would still be in the next room - plus my working day would be 3hr sessions ..but that obv would only be part time..maybe after 5mnts will do that & see from there..i think its hard to tell until the time comes
mumof2 Posts: 3864
It's hard to say now but we are trying for a baby as soon as we are married and the plan is that I would give up work for 1 year with the view to seeing how I get on..............if I am bored I go back to work but thankfully we don't have any more mortgage so I don't have to go back if I don't want to but then I think that maybe down the road I might need my sanity --------------I really think that in this case it is each to their own
one year married Posts: 133
From March 2007 Maternity leave will be 26 weeks paid + 16 weeks unpaid= 42 weeks, not a year. I'm going to keep my options open. I plan to take the full maternity leave and decide then whether being a SAHM is for me. We can afford to live on one salary so thankfully money isn't an issue.
MrsHawaii05 Posts: 488
i agree with madwoman-course the men wants us to stay and home and look after their baby-coz theyre the ones leggin it out the door for 8 hours!!! im a sahm, and it is tough. i used to think when i worked that id love to be at home all day with a baby but the rose tinted glasses were on!!!! its completely my choice and i know some women would kill to be in my position so im lucky that way but i will definitely be going back to work at some stage when im ready, im just not ready to let someone else mind ds yet, while i have the choice i dont really get lonely as such as ive always been fine in my own company etc, my family are nearby but they all work it can get very boring at times and you seriously dunno sometimes how uve spent the day !!! but like i said for me at the moment the pros outweigh the cons but i will definitely be going back to work , i dunno how our mothers done it years ago, gave up work for life and had 4 or 5 kids, id seriously crack up :twisted: