And I really don't mind, I even treat it as a compliment sometimes....
But my friend thinks its really condescending to be referred to as a girl.
Now we both agree that its polite to be called a lady by strangers, but she would prefer to be called a woman rather than a girl ,eg." the woman over there,, rather than "the girl over there". I don't really like being called a woman. I don't know why, I just think it doesn't sound that friendly or something.I'm odd, I know!!
So what do you think
A friend and myself were chatting about this last night, and had very different opinions.
I'm 29, and am often called a girl, by people in shops, hairdressers, a guard in the station when I was getting forms signed, my dentist even calls me a good girl when she is doing my teeth!!!
Funnily enough yesterday on the luas I was referred to as a lady and I just thought "gosh I must be getting old"! It was always girl and then suddenly a bunch of teenage girls say "you are blocking that lady's way"...
OH was saying that he was on his bike the other day and a guy the same age as him says to his son "move out of that man's way" - OH said it used to be fella now its man! so he's feeling old now too.
So call me a girl coz it makes me feel younger!
Beats being called a boy!
Even my mum would say she was going out with "the girls" for a night out.
I was recently called a lady in a shop, and I got the shock of my life! I've always looked young for my age but I guess not any more. I was called a girl a while back, and then the person dealing with said "Oh, you're married, you're not a girl any more so".
I much prefer being called a girl .... oh definetly !! I can deal with Lady, but don;t like being called a woman at all. It does make me feel a lot older.
Mind you I called somebody else a girl one day and OH said that it was like talking down to someone to refer to them as a "girl". I don't agree with him I'm afraid !!!!!
[quote="Snuffy":24svuxmc]Beats being called a boy![/quote:24svuxmc]
Funny you should say that.
DH and I were with the ILs last weekend and I must have passed FIL something, and he said 'Good girl'. I noticed it, but it honestly didn't bother me and I was certainly not going to say it. But DH starts on FIL for saying it, saying it's sexist and not on. Now DH didn't say it aggressively but said it in a joking manner (but with serious undertones IYKWIM to get the point across). FIL asked me what I thought about 'good girl' being said about me. I said I didn't mind, but I know some women would mind it, as when you think about it it is quite patronizing to say it to a grown woman. He really didn't get it, until he handed me something, and I said 'Good boy'. His face dropped and he laughed and I think he 'got' it right then.
All of that said, it wouldn't bother me too much at all. FIL saying it certainly didn't bother me. However I think the person saying it has a lot to do with whether it would annoy me IYKWIM
), so I'm used to being the 'young one' in the family.
I rather being called a 'girl'. To be honest I feel old if someone calls me a 'woman'. I'm the youngest in my immediate family, and my DH is quite a bit older than me (I've been mistaken for his daughter on occasion
I like being called a girl. I like it when Im out with the girls and someone will say in a restaurant or shop, "what can I get for you girls?' I like lady when someone doesn't know me. I always refer to a woman as a lady. Don't like being referred to as a woman, as I feel a bit paranoid that I'm looking old.
I've no idea why but the word woman freaks me out a bit. I just donm't like it as a word, certainly describing me. I'm fine with girl