Now that more time has elapsed, I feel like it is more of a blur and I do just remember the happy and magical moments - of which there were loads - the highlight for me was the ceremony for sure - it was so personal and lovely, and I thought my heart would burst with love as we said our vows. There are so many special moments from the day and I am so delighted I insisted on a videographer - I know I will really get a sense of what a good day it was when I see that. We have had nothing but brilliant feedback, people were wowed by everything from the style to the venue, to the food, to the drink that we made sure flowed..but I felt like I was at the eye of the storm on the day and couldn't see it with any perspective.
The day itself is so surreal and overwhelming - I was very relaxed in the lead-up but on the day I could feel the nervous tension mounting... lots of little things happened - the necklace I had paid a fortune for broke in my hand that morning, my flowers looked nothing like what I had ordered (lovely but just not what I asked for!), we ran really late getting ready! Then in the greeting line we were standing on grass and my dress was ruined as people gave me bear hugs and nearly toppled me!! I kept feeling my veil getting yanked and could have cried as I looked down to see the grass stains and footprints on the pristine white gown. In fairness, the photos were painless and even really enjoyable - but I had serious FOMO as I felt I was missing the drinks ceremony - this was stupid as most brides miss all if not most of it - but I was rushing to get back to the crowd..then the wedding coordinator asked us did we want to see the room before everyone went in for the meal and we said yes - this took up the few minutes we did have for the drinks however, and I wish I had just said no - to add insult to injury, my cake was nothing like what I had ordered - I was baffled seeing it to be honest! Certainly not something that would ruin the day, but I was unimpressed, as anyone would be if they'd paid 500 euro for something they didn't want!This all meant I got very few casual photos with friends or family friends, photos I would have loved.
The speeches were amazing and I had a couple of glasses of wine to get through mine, which was emotional, but then I think I was pretty tipsy - The groomsmen didn't come out for the first dance (idiots) and my parents had gone back to their room to change so they missed it. The biggest annoyance was that the band started off very gently, with mid tempo and slow songs - as the photographer and videographer were only there for the first 45 mins of dancing I was so disappointed at the lack of people on the dancefloor and ended up getting upset - combination of anger and alcohol. My groom, my dad and my bridesmaid couldn't calm me down. I think something just had to give at that point!
Are these all standard bridal quibbles? As I said, I am out the other side now, and these things aren't getting me down anymore, but I felt sick to my stomach about them for the few days after the wedding, and when people asked was it the best day ever, I was honest and said well actually lots of things went wrong and I found the whole day really overwhelming... people were shocked but I think I am just one of the few brides to be honest..but now they seem quite superficial when I write them down. I never thought I would be the stresshead bride! I'd have been better off stressing in the lead-up maybe and then finally relaxing on the day!
The important things went perfectly and I have the best husband a girl could ask for so please don't get me wrong, it was worth it to marry the love of my life!
Your thoughts please xoxo