Why he didn't want you at it, now that is another question!
cbb1982 wrote:You poor thing, this is a horrible situation to be in.
Do you think your BF may have something to hide in Ireland, and that is why he didnt want have anything to do with Wedding, or take you back there? Have you been to the part of Ireland he is from, have you met all his family, are you welcome to go any time you want?
It might be a completely different reason, I'm just guessing, only because I have a friend here in London who is with a guy for 10 years who treats her very badly, never takes her to Ireland with him, and have heard from another friend who knows somewhere where he is from that he has a Partner and Child in Ireland, the poor girlfriend hasnt a clue!
JDD wrote:Ach, IMAEEJIT, it looks to me that your boyfriend (or ex?) has something to hide. That's the only conclusion I can come to. He initially invites you to his brother's wedding, then appears to have changed his mind and backtracks saying that he doesn't know whether it's on or not, and then that backfires on him when you see the pictures of the wedding. If you hadn't been on facebook, you would never have known that the wedding took place.
JDD wrote:He's backed into a corner when you confront him, does the usual "attack is the best form of defence" and says it is YOU that is in the wrong and it is YOU that doesn't trust him, and threatens to break the whole thing off unless you drop it and apologise. The actions of a desperate man I guess.
Yes, I'm afraid to admit it, but it sure seems that way to me, JDD.JDD wrote:As a previous poster said, have you met his family before, or even know anyone else from where he lives? How long have you been going out together and how often do you see each other?
Dreamster wrote:He is hiding something.
As the others have asked? Have you been here? Have you met his family?
How often do you see him? I take it ye don't live in the same country?
Dreamster wrote:If his bro & sil didn't want you at the wedding then he shuold have told you, if it was something to do with his daughter then he should have explained that.
Dreamster wrote:The one thing that is clear is that a full blown wedding took place and your bf didn't want you to know. Sorry.
cbb1982 wrote:That sounds to me like it was a full Irish Wedding, people wouldnt go to that trouble for a Blessing - and I think he is definitely hiding something. I hope you get to the bottom of it.Dreamster wrote:It was a wedding - no question. Why he didn't want you at it, now that is another question!
hils138 wrote:Hi IAMAEEJIT,
I think you have nothing to lose by contacting your SIL on Facebook and asking her if she can shed any light on your BF's behaviour. I know he would hate you doing this but it seems like there is a huge problem in your relationship and can only be sorted by knowledge of what is REALLY going.
hils138 wrote:I am going to say this in defence of your BF, sometimes men are just stupid and forget to tell you things or simply don't think to tell you sometime because they have filed it under "not important". Your BF sounds like he wasn't terrible interested in his brother's wedding an if and it's a big IF it was arranged at short notices maybe he didn't tell you so that you won't have to go the "trouble" of travelling to it.
hils138 wrote:That said, I think the physical distance between you makes it easier for him to lead "two lives". That has to end.
hils138 wrote:IAMAEEJIT, I really feel for you and hope that this can be sorted with the minimum heartache for you.
hils138 wrote:Thanks for clearing that up, I was a little confused, sorry.
hils138 wrote:In my opinion, it doesn't really matter whether it was a blessing or a wedding, he didn't invited you or tell you about it, WTF is going on in his head??? It would have been easy to tell you that the blessing was going ahead but that it was a small event and he could not invite you.
hils138 wrote:You know your BF best but it sounds to me that if your SIL invited you to be your friend on Facebook then she wants you involved in their lives (to some small extent) so why does not he want you to contact them.
hils138 wrote:I hate saying this but it sounds like there is something else going on either your relationship or in your BF's life and he is using this arguement as an excuse!!