How to Write a Killer Maid of Honour Speech

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You’ve been asked to deliver your Maid of Honour speech and you’ve got no idea where to start. Well, we’ve got you covered! Today we’re talking through everything you need to know. From the structure to funny tidbits you could include, questions to ask when writing different portions of your speech, and what to do if you are still completely stuck. Take a peek, you’ll thank us later!

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How to structure your Maid of Honour speech


Begin by welcoming everybody and introducing yourself. If the Best Man has done his speech already, feel free to make reference to it, if appropriate. Something like this:

“Thank you James (the best man) for your very kind -and expected- compliments on the beauty of the bride and bridesmaids. What can a woman do but agree? We are indeed exceptionally gorgeous!”

The funny stuff

Keep your speech upbeat by including some funny bits. Here are a couple of humourous tidbits you could sprinkle into your Maid of Honour speech:

“I love my husband, but no matter where we are I make him sleep closest to the door so if anything happens he gets murdered first.” – tweet by Jessica Valenti

“Your wife won’t start an argument with you if you’re cleaning.” – Anonymous

“The relationship between husband & wife is very psychological. One is psycho and the other is logical. Now please don’t try to figure out Who is Who.” – Anonymous

“Never laugh at your wife’s choices. You are one of them.” – Anonymous

Talk about the bride

She’s your bestie, so talk about her! This portion of your speech provides the context of your relationship and why you’ve been asked to be the Maid of Honour. Here are a few questions you can ask yourself as you begin to write this part of your Maid of Honour speech:

How did you meet?

What is your favourite memory of the bride?

Which three words would you use to describe the bride?

How has the bride made an impact on your life?

Talk about her partner

Sure, the bride is your bestie, but it’s always great to say something sweet about her new spouse. Here are a few questions you can ask to help craft this part of your speech:

How did you meet her partner?

What is your favourite memory of her partner?

Which three words would you use to describe her partner?

How did you know her partner was ‘the one’?

Talk about the couple

Here’s a list of questions to ask as you write this portion of the speech:

How did they get engaged?

What do you admire most about the couple?

What milestones have the couple celebrated?

Is there something that makes them unique?

Add in more funny stuff

Enough with the sappy stuff! Throw in a few more lighthearted jokes as you work towards the end of your speech. This is usually a good spot to include funny “marriage advice”:

“The most important four words for a successful marriage: ‘I’ll do the dishes’.” – Anonymous

“Marriage is just like a walk in the park. JURASSIC PARK.” – Anonymous

“Spend a few minutes a day really listening to your spouse. No matter how stupid his problems sound to you.” —Megan Mullally

“To keep your marriage brimming with love in the wedding cup, whenever you’re wrong, admit it; whenever you’re right, shut up.” – Ogden Nash

Make a toast

End your speech by inviting the guests to raise their glasses for a toast to the couple. Here are a few examples of great ways to end your Maid of Honour speech:

“May ‘for better or worse’ be far better than worse.”

“A toast to love, laughter and happily ever after.”

“May all your ups and downs come only in the bedroom.”

Do’s and don’ts for your Maid of Honour speech

Do keep it sincere and honest.

Do aim for a lighthearted and upbeat tone.

Don’t mention ex-boyfriends. Your job is to honour the bride, not humiliate her.

Do include feel-good stories about the bride.

Do share sentimental stories.

Don’t forget to rehearse your speech.

Don’t read your speech. Cue cards are there as a guide!

Do speak slower than you normally would.

Do make eye contact (in particular, when you are speaking to the couple).

Don’t be afraid to cry.

Do smile. If you’re feeling nervous, smiling will send relaxing signals to your brain.

Don’t forget to top up your glass before you begin your Maid of Honour speech.

What to do if you are completely stuck

We hope these tips have helped you craft your Maid of Honour speech. We know that there are plenty of people who are petrified by the thought of public speaking. You might feel like you need a little bit of extra help, and that’s where we’d like to step in. We’ve got two fantastic Irish wedding suppliers to recommend. They are experts in helping people to craft unique and memorable speeches.

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