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star13 Posts: 291
Found this on another forum, thought it was fab! Hold Your Baby A lovely post by Alternative Mama Hold Your Baby | Alternative Mamawww.alternative-mama.com At the breastfeeding group that I volunteer at, the most common non-breastfeeding-related concern the new mums have is that they are holding their babies too much. This is an open letter to them, and to all mothers who worry that their babies are spending too much time in their arms. *** Dear mama, I know how you’re feeling. I really, really do. I remember those days pinned to the sofa, enjoying the soft cuddles with my baby but constantly worrying. The laundry, the dishes, the hoovering, the dinner… and of course, the echo of The Baby Experts ricocheting around my head, warning me to put my sleeping baby down, lest they ‘get used’ to sleeping in my arms. Don’t pick them up as soon as they make a noise, don’t feed them more than every two hours and for goodness’ sake never ever let them nurse to sleep. The thing is though, mama, worrying about these things is wasted time.Precious time that you’ll never get back. I remember the frustration, and the irrational thoughts that you’ll never get off the sofa/sleep/do anything without a baby attached to you ever again. I remember the guilt – wanting to cuddle your baby but worrying that you’re doing him a disservice by doing so.I remember the patronising smiles from older relatives after they encourage you to try to put your baby down more often, and you tell them you can’t bear to hear them cry. A baby’s natural habitat is their mother. Your sweet baby grew within you; nine whole months hearing your heartbeat, your voice, your laugh. Your baby doesn’t care about the pretty moses basket you bought him. He certainly doesn’t think much of the bouncy chair, or the crib. And that musical mobile that was supposed to entertain him – forget it! Hold your baby. Your baby wants you. More than that, he needs you. He knows of nothing but your warm arms, your sweet fragrance, and how you make all of the bad feelings disappear with nothing but an embrace. You are part of him, and he of you. Nobody knows that little baby better than you do, mama – and nobody knows you like he does. I promise you that these weeks will fly past at a frightening rate. Before you know it, your tiny little bundle will be a rambunctious child, running you ragged and becoming increasingly hard to pin down for a cuddle. I know everybody says that you’ll miss it when it’s gone and it’s hard to believe that right now, but there’s a reason why they keep saying it. It’s painfully true. Watching your child grow is so bittersweet, and infancy is so fleeting. Hold your baby. Listen to the instinct within that tells you that your baby belongs on your chest. Let him rest his sweet head on your shoulder, and gaze at his beautiful sleeping face. Listen to the sound of his breathing. Stroke him, kiss him, and adore him. Smell his intoxicatingly sweet, milky breath. Hold him not just in your arms, but also in your heart.Enjoy every single fleeting second while you still can. Hold your baby. I promise you won’t spoil them. I promise you won’t make them clingy. I promise you will regret it if you don’t
bighugs1 Posts: 212
:lvs :lvs :lvs :lvs :lvs Love this!! I was told so often to put my DD down and let her get used to sleeping by herself when all I wanted was to cuddle her to me. Now I wish she would sit still long enough to let me cuddle her all I want. Enjoy the cuddles they don't last as long as you would think. Off now to wrangle a 15 month old into a quick cuddle
Abimum2011 Posts: 338
Awwwwww love this post. brought a tear to my eye. I can't wait for my little bundle now to give them loads of cuddles and kisses. :lvs :lvs :lvs :lvs
MummyLuv Posts: 2478
Ah god don't post things like that am in floods now, I cuddled both of mine when I could and plan to do the same with this one, yes my children are clingy, yes they do only want mummy all the time, yes I do still let my 14 month old go asleep in my arms, and yes my children have absolutely no doubt that they are totally and utterly adored by me and they return it ten fold. The most important thing u can give your child is cuddles and kisses and watching my big baby girl turn 3 I know it was never wrong, she is not spoilt, she is a good child (can be a devil when she wants to be!!! Like all of them) but she and her sister are so affectionate and confident that I must have done something right. Babies r a gift so cuddle cuddle cuddle
Tinytots Posts: 369
This is just gorgeous and so so true. I've just come down from putting ds down for his nap and still on a high from our cuddle time. Before Every afternoon nap and bedtime, we have cuddle time where he just sits snuggled into my chest and I sing about 6 songs. It's devine and we both love it so much. I know that it's not going to last forever so I try to make the most of it now. I'm so excited about this new LO coming and all the wonderful cuddles and time we'll have and I'm really hoping i'll still get precious time with ds. It's so wonderful being a mammy!!! :lvs
tilsun Posts: 4506
That's really lovely. DD is a bit under the weather and fell asleep on my chest yesterday for the first time in almost a year. it really brought me back to the early days. My favourite was stripping her down to nappy and putting her into my nightie for skin to skin :lvs
Bubstar Posts: 399
thanks for posting this Star its SO lovely :lvs :lvs :lvs
funkyfish Posts: 7626
i cannot wait to hold this lil baba.... as i now know i cannot spoil her and she will be running me ragged in a few short months... :lvs :lvs gorg post.
DollyMomma Posts: 1231
Oh thank you so much OP for posting this. DS is 4 weeks old and hubby and I are worried sick that we've gotten DS into the habit of falling asleep in our arms. I keep telling hubby that these days the experts say you can't spoil a newborn, can't leave them cry but he's more of the opinion "I don't care what the experts say its creating a bad habit". Going to show him this thread now! DS is sound asleep in his carrycot at the mo and I cannot wait for him to wake for a cuddle :lvs