Let me tell you, the post-wedding blues are real!
You know that scene in Friends, where it’s the day after the wedding and Monica says “I’ll never be a bride again, now I’m just someone’s wife!”
Well, it’s a feeling that plenty of couples experience – there’s so much buildup to the Big Day that it can easily come crashing down right afterwards.
Whether you are well into your wedding planning journey or you are just getting started, there are four things you can do RIGHT NOW to make sure that when you get to the day after your wedding, you don’t get bogged down with the post-wedding blues.
Episode breakdown
Keep your end goal in mind
Simple! The whole point of getting married is to be married, right?
You’re not planning a wedding so that you can show off how stylish and organised you are. You’re hosting a wedding so you can celebrate your love with your friends and family.
Once the wedding is over, you will still be married, and that was the whole point, wasn’t it?
The next chapter is all about building a marriage that far surpasses the beauty of your wedding day.
So how do you do it?
- Go on date nights throughout your wedding planning journey and keep wedding talk off limits.
- Take the time to prepare for marriage by asking one another important questions about your beliefs, values and life goals.
- Be genuinely interested in growing together as a couple and start investing in your relationship as soon as you can!
Don’t let wedding planning take over your life
If wedding planning is the only thing you’re focused on, then what do you focus on when the wedding is over?
In last week’s episode I shared a guide to becoming the most organised bride, and this was a big tip of mine! Here are a few ways you can ensure that wedding planning doesn’t take over everything you do:
- Have one wedding planning day each week and increase the frequency of how often you plan as you get closer to the wedding.
- Hangout with your friends and take a genuine interest in what’s going on with their lives – don’t become that bride who only talks about her wedding.
- Don’t neglect your hobbies – keep going to your pilates classes (and not just because you want to get toned arms for the wedding), learn to cook, read some good books, go on long walks with your partner.
- Carry on pursuing your career goals and building a work life that you love.
Give yourself something to look forward to
This could be different for everyone, but if you’ve got something big and fun coming after the wedding, you’ll still have something exciting to look forward to! Here are some suggestions:
- Your honeymoon – not everybody wants to go away right away! Plan yours for a month or two after the wedding and you’ve got a fabulous holiday to look forward to!
- A new home – for couples who don’t live together before the Big Day, you’ve got a new home to build together. Save the home decorating for after your wedding and there’s a whole lot to look forward to.
- A fun friend activity – book in a couple of friend dates with your besties. This could be taking your Maid of Honour to dinner as a thank you for looking after you throughout wedding planning.
- Something tasty you want to cook – if you’re into cooking, find a beautiful recipe to save and try together once you’re married.
Find ways to relive your wedding day
It is your wedding after all, and you don’t want to leave it all in the past. So find ways to relive the festivities!
Get your friends and family together to look at your wedding photos or video!
Your nearest and dearest won’t get sick of it, I promise.
Print your wedding photos and display them in your home.
Go through all the social media posts you were tagged in on the Big Day and rewatch them!
